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My
young family and I reside in Barrie, Ontario and like many Ontario families are facing dark and
horrible times which need not be. I thought you might be
interested in a drastic case with a potentially terrible ending.
Everything you are about to read is truthful and backed up by legal documentation.
I have been referred to and labeled as a delinquent, a “deadbeat” and a sperm donor. I assure you, that this is not the case. With your consideration please allow me to elaborate.
I am about to be committed to jail because of an unjust debt held by the Family Responsibility Office. After a settlement in 2008, child support was consistently paid. At that time I worked part time at a bar as a security guard. Unfortunately in 2009 licensing came into legislation and due to financial burdens I was unable to acquire a security license. This left me to seek alternate job opportunities. In August of 2009 due to income tax confusion, my current wife`s Child Tax Credit had been placed on hold. This Child Tax Benefit did and continues to be an important factor of our financial portfolio. At this point we had no home and zero source of income. In order to maintain a roof over the kids head we sold off all of our assets, including furniture, vehicles and pets, we lived in a 20 foot trailer for approximately three months. We survived off the charity of family and friends. Our attempt to maintain work in the Peterborough area was unsuccessful due in part by an “anonymous” complaint to the our prospective employer by somebody in the Algoma region, which I later traced back to my ex wife. After which case we moved back to Barrie, and again maintained ourselves off the charity of others, until we could stand on our own two feet. My wife acquired work relatively quick at. Although not a glamorous job, it provided us, along with the child tax benefit, the basic necessities of life. Upon my gainful employment, I immediately contacted the FRO and informed them of my employment and once again attempted to aid in the financial welfare of my children. I did not contest garnishment of the ordered amount, even though it was in excess of the Ontario Child Support Guidelines. I felt I had the need to contribute as much as possible in order make some head way with the arrears. During which time my lawyer made several attempts to revise the current support order to comply with the Ontario Guidelines for my income bracket. My ex-wife originally agreed to adjust child support based on yearly income tax statements. This was never done to accommodate my family in any time of need. By June 2010 My position was terminated due to a shortage of work. I made attempts to gain unemployment in which I was denied due to a lack of insurable hours. My already dangerous level of debt continued to build. Once again in an attempt to make ends meet, we had to get rid of our possessions. In a desperate attempt I accepted employment with a company that due to their poor business practice, left three returned pay checks. Lesson learned...never accept rubber cheques...they bounce. Leaving me further in debt to my bank. I have received no financial record or compensation from this “employer.” I continue to pursue this matter. For the last five months I have maintained a very aggressive job search while providing home care for my child and step children. While my wife struggles to maintain the financial integrity of our home. I have made attempts to compensate my ex-wife and my children, with extra visits, assistance with school materials and items such as clothing whenever possible. All of which were rejected by my ex-wife. Meanwhile, we have desperately utilized charitable organizations such as the Barrie Food Bank, the Christmas Cheer program, in order to provide our children with some form of normalcy.
We have been unable to maintain our household payments, we have faced vehicle repossession, and yet our pursuit for a stronger future continues. It was brought to my attention, several months ago that my difficulty in acquiring employment may have in part been due to slanderous, and reputably harmful remarks made by my ex-wife of over the internet in public view, Once again, being labeled as a “deadbeat”, a “sperm donor” and a liar in hiding. I ask you, what employer in our modern age doesn`t attempt to Google the name of a potential employee. This continues to be an issue as it still resurfaces in an online search. Despite my ex-wife's attempts to sabotage any level of success for me and my family, we have once again risen to the challenge. As of Monday, February 14, 2011, I began new employment, although minimum wage, it will assist in contributing to some of our financial burden. I can once again make an attempt to satisfy reasonable child support payments. I hesitate to divulge
this information to my ex-wife, in fear that she will once again try to establish negative contact with my employer. I will however, provide Family Responsibility Office with all the required information. In closing, I would like to summarize, these documented facts:
1. When I have been in a position to be able to pay, I have paid.
2. My attempts to maintain employment and seek assistance from employment agencies has been on going.
3. My ex-wife has refused any assistance that I have been able to provide.
4. In August of 2008, my ex-wife submitted an offer to settle in which she indicated that she was able and willing to relieve me of any financial responsibility including arrears as long as I never have any contact with the children again. I did not agree to this settlement for obvious reasons.
I do not place a monetary value on my children. Nor is it her legal right to determine money intended for the children.
5. Each visit to access my son, costs in excess of 200.00
6. We have been unable to maintain proper maintenance and up keep due to extensive travel to access my child (1200 kms monthly). We are now on our fourth vehicle within a three year period.
7. We have four children living in our home. Which also deserve a fair chance at success.
8. Imprisoning me will not benefit any of the six children currently involved. I have always provided for these children if not financially then as a caring loving father.
9. Since the birth of my youngest child, now two years old, my wife has suffered from clinical depression as well as physical ailments. Which at times leaves me in a position of her caregiver. This may have serious implications to her well being and family structure. Should I be unable to
provide that care and support.
10. I will likely lose my new employment should I be committed via this motion. Once again making it impossible to pay.
In final, my wife and I are currently considering filing for bankruptcy. We have hopes that my new employment and opportunities on the horizon for my wife to better her employment will help provide a better way of life for everyone involved. In my opinion, it is a shame that the Family Responsibility Office does not fulfill the definition of Responsibility or Family. It remains clear that absolute power, corrupts absolutely. I hope that I have successfully been able to provide you with a clear insight as to the undue hardship that both my ex-wife and the Family Responsibility Office has placed on six children, my wife, myself and my extended family. I know I am not alone in this matter. Thousands of Ontario families suffer at the hands of vindictive ex-spouses and even more so at the hands of the Family Responsibility Office. Please help us change the laws that so lightly govern the FRO. Many voices can help take away their corruptible power and literally save lives.
Sincere Thanks.
I have been referred to and labeled as a delinquent, a “deadbeat” and a sperm donor. I assure you, that this is not the case. With your consideration please allow me to elaborate.
I am about to be committed to jail because of an unjust debt held by the Family Responsibility Office. After a settlement in 2008, child support was consistently paid. At that time I worked part time at a bar as a security guard. Unfortunately in 2009 licensing came into legislation and due to financial burdens I was unable to acquire a security license. This left me to seek alternate job opportunities. In August of 2009 due to income tax confusion, my current wife`s Child Tax Credit had been placed on hold. This Child Tax Benefit did and continues to be an important factor of our financial portfolio. At this point we had no home and zero source of income. In order to maintain a roof over the kids head we sold off all of our assets, including furniture, vehicles and pets, we lived in a 20 foot trailer for approximately three months. We survived off the charity of family and friends. Our attempt to maintain work in the Peterborough area was unsuccessful due in part by an “anonymous” complaint to the our prospective employer by somebody in the Algoma region, which I later traced back to my ex wife. After which case we moved back to Barrie, and again maintained ourselves off the charity of others, until we could stand on our own two feet. My wife acquired work relatively quick at. Although not a glamorous job, it provided us, along with the child tax benefit, the basic necessities of life. Upon my gainful employment, I immediately contacted the FRO and informed them of my employment and once again attempted to aid in the financial welfare of my children. I did not contest garnishment of the ordered amount, even though it was in excess of the Ontario Child Support Guidelines. I felt I had the need to contribute as much as possible in order make some head way with the arrears. During which time my lawyer made several attempts to revise the current support order to comply with the Ontario Guidelines for my income bracket. My ex-wife originally agreed to adjust child support based on yearly income tax statements. This was never done to accommodate my family in any time of need. By June 2010 My position was terminated due to a shortage of work. I made attempts to gain unemployment in which I was denied due to a lack of insurable hours. My already dangerous level of debt continued to build. Once again in an attempt to make ends meet, we had to get rid of our possessions. In a desperate attempt I accepted employment with a company that due to their poor business practice, left three returned pay checks. Lesson learned...never accept rubber cheques...they bounce. Leaving me further in debt to my bank. I have received no financial record or compensation from this “employer.” I continue to pursue this matter. For the last five months I have maintained a very aggressive job search while providing home care for my child and step children. While my wife struggles to maintain the financial integrity of our home. I have made attempts to compensate my ex-wife and my children, with extra visits, assistance with school materials and items such as clothing whenever possible. All of which were rejected by my ex-wife. Meanwhile, we have desperately utilized charitable organizations such as the Barrie Food Bank, the Christmas Cheer program, in order to provide our children with some form of normalcy.
We have been unable to maintain our household payments, we have faced vehicle repossession, and yet our pursuit for a stronger future continues. It was brought to my attention, several months ago that my difficulty in acquiring employment may have in part been due to slanderous, and reputably harmful remarks made by my ex-wife of over the internet in public view, Once again, being labeled as a “deadbeat”, a “sperm donor” and a liar in hiding. I ask you, what employer in our modern age doesn`t attempt to Google the name of a potential employee. This continues to be an issue as it still resurfaces in an online search. Despite my ex-wife's attempts to sabotage any level of success for me and my family, we have once again risen to the challenge. As of Monday, February 14, 2011, I began new employment, although minimum wage, it will assist in contributing to some of our financial burden. I can once again make an attempt to satisfy reasonable child support payments. I hesitate to divulge
this information to my ex-wife, in fear that she will once again try to establish negative contact with my employer. I will however, provide Family Responsibility Office with all the required information. In closing, I would like to summarize, these documented facts:
1. When I have been in a position to be able to pay, I have paid.
2. My attempts to maintain employment and seek assistance from employment agencies has been on going.
3. My ex-wife has refused any assistance that I have been able to provide.
4. In August of 2008, my ex-wife submitted an offer to settle in which she indicated that she was able and willing to relieve me of any financial responsibility including arrears as long as I never have any contact with the children again. I did not agree to this settlement for obvious reasons.
I do not place a monetary value on my children. Nor is it her legal right to determine money intended for the children.
5. Each visit to access my son, costs in excess of 200.00
6. We have been unable to maintain proper maintenance and up keep due to extensive travel to access my child (1200 kms monthly). We are now on our fourth vehicle within a three year period.
7. We have four children living in our home. Which also deserve a fair chance at success.
8. Imprisoning me will not benefit any of the six children currently involved. I have always provided for these children if not financially then as a caring loving father.
9. Since the birth of my youngest child, now two years old, my wife has suffered from clinical depression as well as physical ailments. Which at times leaves me in a position of her caregiver. This may have serious implications to her well being and family structure. Should I be unable to
provide that care and support.
10. I will likely lose my new employment should I be committed via this motion. Once again making it impossible to pay.
In final, my wife and I are currently considering filing for bankruptcy. We have hopes that my new employment and opportunities on the horizon for my wife to better her employment will help provide a better way of life for everyone involved. In my opinion, it is a shame that the Family Responsibility Office does not fulfill the definition of Responsibility or Family. It remains clear that absolute power, corrupts absolutely. I hope that I have successfully been able to provide you with a clear insight as to the undue hardship that both my ex-wife and the Family Responsibility Office has placed on six children, my wife, myself and my extended family. I know I am not alone in this matter. Thousands of Ontario families suffer at the hands of vindictive ex-spouses and even more so at the hands of the Family Responsibility Office. Please help us change the laws that so lightly govern the FRO. Many voices can help take away their corruptible power and literally save lives.
Sincere Thanks.
